How are you?
Is that fine fine, or fine because you know I’m not really asking how you are?
As George Bernard Shaw said:
The single biggest problem with communication
is the illusion that it has taken place.
The phrase ‘ how are you’ is merely a social tool for pleasantries.
As is the current on-line greeting,” What’s sup?”
But, how could I convey that I really do care how the person is doing?
How about asking them to describe their day as a weather report.
How’s your weather day?
“Expected a cloudy day with drizzle, but it turned sunny as the day went on”;
Or, “expected clear sky all day but a storm headed in”.
Summing up my day as a personal weather report conveys both emotional context and particulars, in a creative way.
If someone were to ask, how is your weather day, then you’d know it was more than social pleasantries.
They care about your day.
Give it a try.
So, how’s your weather day?